The Not So Fun Firsts

As a new parent, I have spent the last 10.5 months excited for and documenting all of Jack’s “firsts”. His first smile, first time in a swimming pool, the first time he rolled, crawled, and took a few steps toward me. These are the things I daydreamed about when I was pregnant with him. With each first, I feel a sense of bittersweet pride, watching my sweet boy grow, develop, and explore, but also a little sad and frantic that it’s all happening so fast.

These are the fun firsts. There are iPhone photos to commemorate these moments, they are shared with grandparents and bragged about with friends.

Then, there are the not so fun firsts, and we experienced one of them big time this weekend. For the first time, Jack got sick, more than the stuffy nose and a slight cough sickness that he’s had before. I’m talking not sleeping well, not eating well, no smiles, no energy, and lots of tears.

I knew it was only a matter of time until he got sick, and I know it could have beenย soย much worse. I thank God for a baby who will be back to a healthy, happy boy in a few more days, but my goodness does it hurt to see your baby in pain.

To top it off, we were all supposed to travel out of town to celebrate my step sister’s engagement. Jack and I had to stay home while Ryan joined my family for the trip. Single moms and moms raising kids without their partners for whatever reason, you have my utmost respect. This is a first that is hard to go through on your own (even if it was for only slightly over 24 hours).

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We spent the weekend playing with Max, going out for walks, and snuggling a lot. When daddy got home, we took naps and Jack started getting some of his energy back, so we practiced walking in new shoes in the backyard. That’s a first he has yet to achieve on his own!

I realize how important it was that I spent last week focusing on self-care. I went into the weekend refreshed in so many ways, so I was able to be present for Jack when he really needed me. In the spirit of self-care, I want to focus on the positives in a challenging situation.

Like I said, I am thankful that Jack is already on the mend, and he is generally a very healthy baby. I am thankful that I was able to be here for him and comfort him as much as I could. I am thankful for being able to breastfeed him, something I hope has helped keep him from getting sick this long. Finally, I am thankful for my wonderful husband who made a long drive to celebrate with my family, something he didn’t have to do, but something that meant so much to us.

While we look forward to many new fun and exciting firsts ahead of our boy, I also anticipate just as many hard, challenging, frustrating, scary firsts. So moms, let’s support each other through the not so fun firsts, because whether we are going through them with our partner, family, friends, or on our own, they are tough.

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16 Comments

    1. Thank you, Kim!! Much appreciated. He’s back to destroying anything he can get his hands on this morning, so he must be feeling better! ๐Ÿ˜†

  1. It’s so rough when they’re sick, especially the first time. I can’t say it will get easier, but next time he gets sick you’ll know what to expect. I’m so glad he’s feeling better already! It really stinks that you missed the family engagement, but I know your son felt a million times better having you home and present. You’re such an awesome momma!

    1. Thank you so much!! Your kind word are appreciated ๐Ÿ˜Š it’s all about putting their needs first now, isn’t it? That’s a great point, I will know what to expect in the future and be much better prepared.

  2. Great post that we can all relate to! It’s hard to take care of sick babies for sure! It will get easier. Hang in there! Self-care is so important after weeks like that so you are on the right path!

  3. I am glad to hear that your little man is starting to feel better. I have a 4 month old son and I am not looking forward to his first sickness. You never want your baby not feeling well. It sounds like you did a great job taking care of him and getting in some extra snuggles ๐Ÿ™‚ Good job mama!

  4. I totally get you. First major sickness makes your heart break. Then there’s the first trip to the ER, first bee sting, first scar, first fight with friends, etc, etc. So much to look forward to ๐Ÿ™‚

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